The two Become One

On July 23rd I got to perform my very first Wedding. Yes, bald head and earrings and that hair under my bottom lip. No suit. No tie. I loved it. The groom cried. The bride cried. Nobody fainted. It was brilliant!

Below I have copied a portion of my part of the ceremony... the part where I talked to the beautiful couple. I've not done any editing to make it more understandable to you, the reader... good luck.

I'm asking you to read, then let's have a community response to the topic of ONENESS. How have you experience oneness? Does it truly exist? How does it work? What does it look like?

SCRIPTURE: Matthew 19:4-6

Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."



Gods intent was that a man and woman leave their parents to be joined together in marriage. When your family said We do they were endorsing this biblical principle.



U2 wrote an incredible song called ONE

It starts off:

Is it getting better

Or do you feel the same

Will it make it easier on you

Now you got someone to blame

What do they mean? This is a great thing about being one? That you get someone to blame?



I Ryan Emerson take you Hayley Owens

So that I have someone to blame.



The song continues

Did I disappoint you?

Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?

I Hayley Owens take you Ryan Emerson

To disappoint me?

To leave a bad taste in my mouth?



Does ONENESS include times of disappointment and blame? Yes it does.


The best relationships must acknowledge reality, limitations, disappointments, and struggles. Sharing in that reality is part of what makes you ONE. Allowing God to change you, heal you, and teach you within the context of this ONENESS is what makes this a Christian marriage.



U2 finishes the song

One life,

But were not the same

We get to carry each other, Carry each other.

You follow a God who carries us through good times and bad! Who accepts our limitations and loves us unconditionally no strings attached. It's HIS love that helps us be ONE. He is our example of what Love really is.



SCRIPTURE: 1 John 4: 7-19

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us.



Ryan and Hayley, the love that you share comes from God. You love because He loved first. Keep Him first in your marriage!

One life

Because youre not the same

You get to carry each other, carry each other.